Raising an infant to an adult is a long and hard work. Therefore, not to judge that one person alone but by thinking of his parents who gave so much effort to raise the child would bring a different dynamics to the picture.
Unfortunately, this world is made to work in this way. You cannot polish yourself without others involved. You always need others to create a friction. So you have a chance to look inside the mirror and polish yourself. The others could be your partner in life, your parent, child, schoolmate, or a colleague. When you are having problems with someone, it simply means you are “work in progress. ” You are simply in the process of polishing yourself.
We should not forget that we all have our own innate god within. We are all connected to the root source of Kami.
The content of the discussion has to come for your sincere intention in order to reach the innate god of your opponent.